Do you think it is possible to find a balance between the desire to avoid deep emotional attachments and the need for intimacy, if love was previously associated with pain? I myself increasingly notice that easy, unencumbered meetings give me a sense of freedom and joy without unnecessary risk.

Love for me has often been linked to suffering, and now I’m a little afraid of serious relationships or even close emotional connections, because there are always unpredictable consequences and uncertain experiences. And honestly, it turns out that is actually really nice and fun. No commitments, just good times. I don’t feel lonely, and there’s no need to open up to someone new right away, risking vulnerability.